Fixation Issues

Yesterday we went through a major meltdown and 3 walk offs with my oldest. The whole ordeal lasted about 5 and half hours. The trigger? He wanted to buy something and didn’t have any money and I said the word NO. This somehow escalated his level beyond a 5 and he was so out of control I couldn’t get him to calm  or get back down to a manageable level.

So we made it through yesterday and here we are about Noon the next day and he’s starting in again about that toy. I’ve given him clear instructions on how to get that toy. Save your money your next 3 paydays and you can buy it. It is the only option. I don’t have the extra money for him to do a special chore and earn it. Besides I’m not a huge fan of doing that because we have done that in the past and look where we are now.

I have no clue how to get him off this fixation except to ride it out. It’s tough riding out major meltdowns like this as they get older, though I know it has to be done. I honestly don’t have a choice. Redirecting him onto some other fixation just isn’t working.

Makes me wonder about these fixation’s. Is there a way to control them or curb them? They are a major contributing factor to meltdowns in this house.